Archive for November, 2011


Posted in curly/kinky hair, Natural hair care on November 30, 2011 by Confessions of LadyV69

One thing that’s kind of amusing about the natural hair community is the amount of bandwagons I’ve witnessed. Numerous people glom onto the words and/or pictures of a well known blogger/vlogger and attempt to copy their regimen and buy the same products they use, either subconsciously or consciously hoping that their hair will look as voluminous or as curly as theirs. This phenomena isn’t exclusive to natural hair, of course. When I had relaxed hair, during various times, a number of styles were the rage: the Halle Berry cut, Rihanna’s asymmetrical cut, the half bald, half full hair look (never could understand that one), the style where the top of your hair was flat twisted while the other half was left down and so on and on. It’s a little funny to see bandwagons in the natural hair community, though, since hardly any two heads of hair are exactly alike. It’s kind of weird to celebrate uniqueness yet attempt to do the same things as a lot of other people to try to get the same result. It’s human nature to want to fit in and belong, but when it comes to hair, I kind of have some issues with that.

There have been all kinds of bandwagons, but I’ll only highlight a few. One bandwagon where various naturals regarded the Denman brush as some kind of miracle. On my particular head of hair? Total fail. It felt like that thing was ripping it out. I ended up throwing it away, wasting a good deal of money. There was another bandwagon where the Tangle Teaser (a particular wide tooth comb) was praised to the heavens, but remembering my experience with the Denman brush, I stayed away from that one since I figured that thing would rip out my hair too. Then there was the time where Kimmaytube’s leave-in became the rage. It basically mixes Kinky Curly Knot Today, some aloe vera juice, castor oil and jojoba oil. Actually, this was one bandwagon I could get behind, since this is very moisturizing for my hair.

The latest bandwagon is using grease in your hair. You know, Dax, Blue Magic, etc. Some naturals have been using this stuff for awhile, but they were closeted since it’s not considered all that great for our hair type and they feared being looked down upon by those who are more zealous about using the “right” things for their hair. The main ingredients in grease are petroleum and/or its byproduct, mineral oil. It’s felt that those ingredients essentially act as Saran Wrap for our hair by blocking moisture from entering it and preventing the scalp from eliminating toxins, so a lot of experts offering advice on how to care for highly textured hair recommend avoiding products containing them. For decades, products containing petroleum and mineral oil were about all we had available to style our hair as knowledge about properly caring for highly textured hair was practically non-existent. Curl Junkie, DevaCare and Kinky Curly didn’t exist until a few years ago. In a lot of cases, it can be argued that our hair was just fine as a lot of women remember having long hair as children. I’m hesitant about joining this bandwagon for a couple of reasons. For one, I suffered from a lot of dandruff as a child and my mother would sometimes use Sulfer 8 in my hair because it claimed that it could control it. One whiff of that stuff was enough to knock you out. It smelled that bad. Think of the smell of rotten eggs multiplied several fold. In the end, it didn’t really control the dandruff that much and looking back, I’m not sure that all those flakes were all exclusively dandruff anyway. Sometimes your scalp can flake due to product buildup or a dry scalp. Back then, my hair was washed about every 2-3 weeks, however, product would be applied on my hair every few days as my mother redid my hair. All that product coupled with infrequent washing most likely lead to buildup. I haven’t had dandruff or flakes of any kind since going fully natural. Something to think about. Actually, while Sulfur 8 is the worst offender, most brands of grease don’t have a pleasant smell. After using products that smell like fruit, cake or flowers for the past couple of years, I wouldn’t be too thrilled to go back to the rotten egg smell of Sulfur 8 or the chemical smell of other brands of grease. Another reason I’m hesitant to go old school is because during childhood, when our neighbor and family friend did my hair, she was kind of heavy handed with the grease and I remember sometimes leaving grease spots at school during gym. I grew up in a predominantly white neighborhood and the white kids I went to school with didn’t use grease, so I felt kind of embarrassed having them see those grease spots and having to explain to them why they were there. Those memories are kind of unpleasant for me.

To elaborate further, many people back then (as well as today) thought using grease would moisturize our hair. It was erroneously believed that water would dry out our hair, so it was best to avoid it as much as possible, which explains why a lot of blacks infrequently washed their hair. Remember, information about proper hair care for our hair type was basically non-existent. It’s actually not water that dries out our hair. Water is actually the best moisturizer for our hair. What actually dried out our hair was the sulfate shampoos we used to wash it with, but those were all that were available for decades. If anything, grease technically should be used as a sealant to lock in moisture. It’s a heavy product, so those with fine hair like I do probably will need to proceed with some caution if they don’t want to weigh it down. It also can attract dirt and lint, so you’d need to shampoo it out. Co-washing will not do.  In the natural hair community, grease has a bad rep, so those who swear by it aren’t always willing to admit they use it. I’m not a major natural nazi, so it makes no nevermind to me what other people use in their hair. The main thing about hair care is to do what works for your hair specifically. If Blue Magic works for you, then rock it. Just do due diligence and research it so that you know what you are getting into. Use it because it’s what your hair responds to, not because Curly Nikki does and you hope your hair will look exactly like hers if you use it too. Your hair is unique and beautiful in its own way and it has unique needs. Copying the same regimen and products that other people use could be disastrous for your hair as it won’t have the exact same properties as anyone else. Get to know your hair and what it needs and in the long run, it’ll pay big dividends in its health and vitality.


Hair and the holidays

Posted in curly/kinky hair, Holidays on November 21, 2011 by Confessions of LadyV69

With the holiday season fast approaching and a number of us gearing up to see family that we may not see too often, I wanted to put this out there because there are certain things that us naturals wish that others knew.

Despite what the media tells us otherwise, this time of year can be extremely stressful for anybody. A lot of people experience frustration or depression over seeing TV or movie images of families around the Thanksgiving turkey or holiday lights with smiles glued to their faces while nary a cross word passes their lips, when their families would make the Bundys seem nauseatingly sweet. I could get into the various issues I personally have with the holiday season, but rather than write a novel, I’ll just limit this discussion as it pertains to natural hair.

Remember, having natural, unprocessed hair isn’t the norm in communities of color, as they feel intense pressure to straighten their hair in order to feel accepted by the world at large. So when us naturals gather with our families, particularly with members we don’t see very often, it’s not uncommon for them to make unflattering or downright ignorant comments about our hair. How can naturals deal with unwarranted comments such as:

“When are you going to do something with your hair?”

“Dang, you need a relaxer. Here’s the number to Shameka’s salon.”

“You think you African now?”

First of all, just because you may share DNA with someone, it doesn’t mean that they can’t be as thoughtless or as disrespectful as anyone else. They don’t get a free pass for treating you badly just because you may share the same genes. Respect and thoughtfulness needs to be a two way street. Probably the easiest way to avoid drama over your hair is to set ground rules at the start by stating that it simply isn’t grounds for conversation. If they try to sneak in a rude comment, just state that you don’t wish to talk about it and keep it movin’. Hopefully, they’ll get the message, but for those that are move oblivious, let’s break down the ignorant comments stated above and I’ll add my personal response to them.

“When are you going to do something with your hair?”

You DID do something to your hair, whether it was an updo, twistout, wash and go, etc. That question can be translated to mean that your hair doesn’t look sleek and tame enough for such a special occasion as a holiday dinner. Many people still think that your hair needs to be straight on special occasions because it looks “prettier” somehow. However, IMO, if your natural curly/kinky hair isn’t good enough for a special occasion, does that mean that it’s not acceptable for ANY occasion? Why should we hide our authentic selves simply because of some special meaning attached to one calendar day of the year?

“Dang, you need a relaxer. Here’s the number to Shameka’s salon.”

First of all, nobody “needs” a relaxer. Getting a relaxer is as much of a choice as someone choosing to wear their hair natural, yet being natural isn’t respected due to all the societal and political pressures I’ve mentioned previously. Someone offering the number to their stylist is rude because they clearly aren’t respecting your choice not to process your hair.

“You think you African now?”

I don’t quite know what to make of this one, particularly if this comment is said in a derisive tone. Our texture does descend from our African heritage after all. Someone saying something to this effect may have deep seated issues about their identity. A number of naturals actually don’t go natural for cultural reasons or to somehow feel more connected with our heritage. Some people do it just to have healthier hair. That statement says way more about the person uttering it than it does about you.

What other rude and ignorant comments can you think of? I do wish everyone a happy holiday season and that you’re able to keep the peace amongst your loved ones.

Thoughts on spirituality

Posted in curly/kinky hair, great outdoors, Natural hair care, spirituality on November 16, 2011 by Confessions of LadyV69

Last weekend, I went with a friend for a hike in the country, partly to see the fall foliage. Although I am a die-hard city woman, it is good to go to a slower, calmer environment for a change of pace sometimes. I think it was past peak in terms of fall foliage since around a third of the trees we saw had already lost all of their leaves. The colors peak earlier in the country than in the city since it tends to be a little colder up there. However, what we were able to see was still stunning.

Also, I was fairly lazy with my hair over the weekend and decided to put it back in a bun. I usually avoid buns because my edges are thin and fragile and buns can stress them but at the time I said “eff it” and just did it. I did leave some of the front of my hair out for a bang though, so the stress on the edges would be lessened. The major pet peeve about my hair is that it doesn’t afford me the luxury of doing protective styles so that whenever the time comes that I don’t want to be bothered with it, I don’t have to be. A  lot of naturals can put a set of twists or braids in their hair for a couple of weeks and leave it alone, but I have limitations due to past abuse and the fact that my hair is very thin and fine. Not only do I have to avoid buns, I’ve stopped doing  twists and braids on my own hair as styles because they look extremely scalpy on me. My hair needs to be worn out as much as possible but it means that I have to style it often. When do a twistout or braidout set, I have to retwist or rebraid every night or the style will look fuzzy. That’s fine for the weekend, but it doesn’t look so great at the office. Pineappling (where you put your hair in one high loose ponytail before going to bed) doesn’t work on my hair. Having said all that, I have learned to accept and like my hair. I don’t wish for it to be straight. I haven’t wished for that in awhile. I don’t own a flat iron and have no plans in the future to even get one. However, this weekend was one of those times when I wished I wasn’t as limited with my natural hair. Not sure if that’s coherent or not, but that’s how I’ve been able to express what I feel.

Okay, pics. The pictures of my hair were actually taken yesterday, but I did wear it the same way over the weekend.


























When I was in the country looking at the scenery, I felt close to God. I don’t subscribe to organized religion and I’m not religious, but I do believe that there is something out there that is beyond our ability to see, touch and hear.  I have major issues with organized religion because I feel that they stifle dissent and discourage original thought. Also, people throughout millenia have used organized religion to justify racism, sexism and homophobia (see the “mark of Cain” in Genesis 4, Sodom and Gomorrah also in Genesis and Paul’s writings on women’s roles in Ephesians). A lot of people say that the issue is not with organized religion itself, but with how people have chosen to interpret sacred texts. However, I can’t accept that rationalization in instances where a religious text clearly states actions and beliefs that are diametrically opposite of the way we live today. For example, in Leviticus 27 (I can’t remember the verse numbers offhand), it clearly states that a man was worth 50 shekels but a woman was only worth 30 shekels. For one thing, the people described in that verse were slaves and many countries have abolished that brutal form of labor at least two centuries ago. Also, women weren’t valued as much as the men were and were worth less. I can’t see how anyone can interpret that verse as saying something other than what it states in black and white. The inhumane system of slavery and the subjugation of women may have been accepted at the time the Old Testament was written but that’s not the case in the industrialized world today. Some people have a hard time taking the Bible seriously given the many contradictions in it. They are too many to put in here but a well known one is where the Old Testament states “an eye for an eye,” and Jesus in the New Testament tells his followers to “turn the other cheek.” I personally think these edicts stem from two completely different people having two different belief systems. I don’t think that the people in Jesus’ time were necessarily more “evolved,” if you will. Another issue I have with organized religion is that two of them, Islam and Christianity, are proselytizing faiths which encourage their followers to spread the gospel and entice outsiders into joining the flock. I have major issues telling people what they should or shouldn’t believe or that my faith is “better” than theirs. Every faith has their good and bad points and not one of them are better than another, but a number of religious people don’t have this mentality. Personally, I think in some ways, organized religion heightens distrust among people and encourages insularity in their rigidity and dogmatism. The more fundamentalist the sect, the more rigid and dogmatic they are.

I have heard a couple of stories on hair forums where some members gave natural women grief over their hair. Black churches in particular tend to be more conservative so it’s no surprise to me that some of them consider natural hair to be some countercultural statement that somehow threatens “traditional values.” It’s hard to see how wearing your hair the way it grows out of your scalp can threaten anything, but then, our texture was demonized for decades by the dominant society who usually determined where we lived and where we worked. Appearing “too”different could literally mean starvation. It’s no wonder the older generation found it easier to go along to get along by straightening our hair and it should be no surprise how so many of us over time have internalized these negative beliefs about our hair.  However, I find it highly hypocritical to hear that God loves you as you are in a sermon but once the service is over, some people in the congregation can tell naturals that their hair is a hot mess and needs to be fixed by slapping a relaxer. If God supposedly loves you just as you are, why wouldn’t He or She find your hair acceptable if that’s how He or She created it? That kind of cattiness speaks more about how those flapping their yaps feel about themselves and has nothing to do with the natural women themselves.

So, those are my views on organized religion. I know people who happen to be more into it than I am and I have nothing against those who are, but it’s not how I’ve chosen to conduct my life. However, I’m not an atheist, either. There are certain phenomena that Western science still can’t explain. There may be scientific explanations now as to why trees shed their leaves in the fall and for why some leaves turn yellow while others turn orange, but how did it all begin millions of years ago? What caused trees to first shed their leaves in cooler weather to begin with? What first caused some of them to turn yellow or orange? That’s not something that science has been able to explain fully. In these instances, I don’t find the typical atheist response that “we may never know,” very satisfying or comforting. The thought of a deity being responsible for that initial phenomena may sound ridiculous to some people but it’s as good an answer as any to me until Western science can explain it fully. Many religious people are taught to believe that God is only found in a house of worship at a certain hour on the same day every week. That’s so limiting to me. I also think this mentality can make people feel distant from God because He or She is only available at certain times.  I find the Spirit everywhere-in nature, in music, in writing, in art. Although the Spirit doesn’t usually have a direct hand in creating the things that people use or enjoy, I can’t help but think that He or She provided a little guidance when I see or hear something that especially moves me. I’m not sure if any of this is coherent as it’s a little hard to explain my beliefs in words. People don’t always know what to make of those who take the middle ground as I do. Either I’m a clueless idiot or a heathen. This post was way longer than I intended it to be and kudos to those who’ve managed to read the whole thing. But the last point I want to make is that I feel my beliefs are just as valid as those held by atheists or religious people and they deserve respect as much as I respect theirs.

What next?

Posted in Beauty standard, Racial/ethnic stereotyping with tags , , , , , , , on November 9, 2011 by Confessions of LadyV69

I came across this article where it states that doctors and scientists have developed a new laser procedure that makes it able to turn your brown eyes blue permenantly.

I have major issues with this. We’re bombarded with images and messages from the cradle that project that long, straight hair, blond hair, white skin and blue eyes are the preferred standard of beauty. Anyone who does not fit this ideal is ignored or demonized. In many cases, the further away any particular group of people are from the ideal beauty standard, the more lengths they go to in order to attain it and feel acceptable. It should come as no surprise that black women spend the most money on hair care and cosmetics out of any other racial or ethnic group.

To put it another way, curly hair is considered ugly to a number of people. As a result, countless women feel pressured to slap relaxers, BKT or flat iron in order to feel acceptable. A lot of people think it’s only hair and you can grow it out if you want to be curly again, but in a number of instances, it’s not just hair. The way that people wear it has had major political and social implications for a lot of people over many decades.

In reference to this new laser eye surgery, I feel it could turn into something fairly ugly because some people with brown eyes will come to think them as unattractive while blue ones are revered. In many societies, brown eyes are the dominant gene while blue ones are fairly uncommon. As a result of their relative rarity, blue eyes are viewed as novel by a lot of people and as a result, wind up being coveted and revered. Notice that the article states that the surgery will only be able to turn brown eyes blue. There is no surgery being developed right now to do the reverse and since I tend toward skepticism, I doubt there ever will be. Brown eyes aren’t anything special because that’s the most common eye color that people the world over have. It reminds me too much of the book “The Bluest Eye,” where a black girl believes that if her eyes were blue, her life would be better. I also have issues with this because the eugenics movement a century ago (as well as the Nazis, who borrowed many of their ideas) purported that people with brown eyes were lazy, feeble-minded and whatever other “defienciency” you can name. So in turn, if this new surgery takes off and some of those old reprehensible ideas return, people with brown eyes may come to think of them as something that needs to be fixed. Many women and girls already feel that their hair is something that needs to be fixed. Why add another body part that no one has any control over to the equation? When will the human race stop fucking trying to pressure its members to turn themselves into fucking pretzels in order to fit into some narrow standard beauty? When will the beauty standard be expanded so that everyone will be made to  feel beautiful? Sorry for the coarse language, but this issue really gets to me. I can’t help but think that this surgery is anything other than racist and xenophobic in nature. If you want to change your eye color that badly, just get colored contact lenses and call it a day. They’re cheaper and if used correctly, will cause less damage in the long run.

What I promised and an unusual request

Posted in Uncategorized on November 8, 2011 by Confessions of LadyV69

So I’d stated in my last post that I’d post pictures of my three strand twist out. I didn’t have time to take any pictures yesterday, so this is actually 2nd day hair. My hair tends to appear fuller the longer I keep a style, particularly in the summer when depending on what products I use, the humidity swells it up.

 And the back view:

I like how defined my curls are. This style is definitely a keeper.

I got something of a weird request today. I take my lunch to work most days. It was lunchtime before I discovered that I had forgotten my container of yogurt. I usually eat it for an afternoon snack. So off I went to the store to get a container. Right after the cashier had rung me up, she stated, “I like your jacket.”

“Thanks,” I said. The jacket in question is a fake leather one I got at a discount store near my house last year. I’ve gotten a lot of compliments on it, actually.  Here’s a picture with me wearing it:

Then the cashier asked haltingly, “Can I touch it?”

When she asked the question, I thought she meant my hair. It’s a touchy issue among curlies. Because curly and kinky hair are generally viewed with disdain, a number of people simply aren’t exposed to it much since countless women straighten it in order to feel accepted. So when a lot of people come across someone with curls or kinks, they view it as a novelty and sometimes, they don’t even think it’s real. So in order to see if our hair is real or to experience the novelty for themselves, they think it’s perfectly acceptable to touch our hair, sometimes without even asking our permission. I actually haven’t had a lot of people touch my hair, with or without permission. I personally think it’s due to the fact that it’s not thick or dense. It’s often flat and depending on what I do to it, it doesn’t have a lot of volume, so people probably think it’s boring and nothing special. I’ve noticed that people with thick, dense hair get mauled more often. I can definitely tell you that many naturals despise it when people touch their hair, as they view it as an invasion of their personal space. Some black naturals even suggest that when non-blacks do it, it harkens back to slavery when we were regarded as property that our owners could treat as they wished. I’m the type of person that doesn’t take kindly to invasion of my personal space in general, so I definitely don’t like it when people attempt to touch my hair, particularly without my permission. This woman at least had the manners to ask, the same which can’t be said for everybody, so since she’d asked, I would have permitted her to touch it. I’ve noticed that people with straight hair don’t get mauled that often, since it’s the beauty standard.

However, when I asked her what she wanted to touch, it turned out that she didn’t want to touch my hair.

“Can I touch your jacket?” she asked.

I nearly burst out laughing. It’s a knockoff Rocawear jacket that I paid $30 for. It’s not real leather by any means. But it probably did look real enough for this woman to want to touch it. So I let her touch the sleeve. “For something that’s probably a knockoff, it feels real,” she stated.

“I guess it does,” I stated for lack of anything better to say. After she drew her hand away, I rushed out of the store with a quick goodbye. I think that was the first time anyone ever asked if they could touch my jacket. Very unusual.

When a style comes out right

Posted in curly/kinky hair, Styling with tags , , , , , , , , , , on November 6, 2011 by Confessions of LadyV69

So last weekend, I blew out my hair into a huge fro like so:

However, I didn’t want to wear big hair like that to work all last week. For the most part, the blown out fro results in a cotton candy cloud look that I’m really not a big fan of. I prefer curly fros that have some curl to them. So I decided to do a style that I haven’t had much success with before as an experiment-bantu knot outs. Most of the other times that I’ve attempted the style, it’s been a big fail because I’ve attempted them on damp hair and the knots simply DO.NOT.DRY. Which makes my hair look a hot mess. Someone suggested on a hair board that I frequent that the best way to achieve the style would be to do it on blown out hair. So the day after I blew out my hair, I spritzed some water, slapped on some Curl Junkie Honey Butta and proceeded to put in about 10 knots. I two strand twisted my hair into 10 twists first, then twirled each twist around on themselves into a knot, then secured each knot with bobby pins. You could also tuck the ends of the twists underneath each knot, but my hair tends not to want to stay, hence the pins. When I took the knots down the next morning, this was the result:

I pinned the bangs back to take some hair off my forehead. OMG! I loved the results. My hair was so fluffy and looked so full, which is no small feat considering how thin and fine it is. I’d love for it to be a new staple style but since blow drying has the potential to cause damage, I can’t wear it this way too often. Dang. I wore it like this for a couple of days, then wore it with a headband.

I had to do a protein treatment today, since the direct heat of blow drying breaks down the cuticle and wanted that repaired. I used an egg and some mayo, then low pooed with Trader Joe’s Tea Tree Tingle shampoo, conditioned with HEHH, then deep conditioned with Curl Junkie Deep Fix. That deep conditioner is the truth! It leaves my hair super soft. I’ve put my hair into about 15 three strand twists for a twistout tomorrow. I’ve been doing those lately since I find that three strand twists give more definition than two strand ones. They also dry faster than braids and don’t take as long to unravel. It’s really not that hard to do three strand twists. With braids, you take three sections of hair, then braid them all toward the middle. With three strand twists, you divide your hair into three sections, then take the section on the farthest right and move it all the way to the farthest left. Then you take the next section and move it to the farthest left and then the next section and move it to the far left. All sections move toward the farthest left in a sense. It took a little while for me to remember not to move the sections toward the middle like you do with braiding before I was able to get it. The twists resemble ropes. If I remember, I’ll post pictures tomorrow for the results.


Are they crazy?

Posted in Cervical cancer screening, coping with HPV, HPV with tags , , , , , , , on November 1, 2011 by Confessions of LadyV69

I came across something today that made me furious. There’s a movement among some experts to change the current cervical cancer screening recommendations. Right now, it’s recommended that screening begin at age 21 once a year. If you have normal pap smears three years in a row, you can move to being screened once every three years. They also state that women under 30 not be tested for HPV, since it’s assumed that most women in their 20’s have the virus and that for many of them, it will go dormant within 2 years. Women who test positive for HPV over 30 years old (like yours truly) are thought to have persistent infections and are to be monitored closely. Supposedly, this was to reduce the number of women who were being treated unnecessarily for a condition which regresses in a lot of cases. However, some experts are now proposing to change the screening recommendations to where women over age 21 years only get pap smears once every three years, regardless of prior screening results. They also recommend against screening for the HPV virus for women over 30 unless warranted. Again, this is supposed to reduce the number of unnecessary tests and invasive procedures that women undergo if there’s an issue. They also claim the change is needed because cervical cancer isn’t that common these days due to widespread screening and it often isn’t detected unless the woman has gone more than 5 years without being screened.  Personally, I think the proposed changes are BS and it’s being done more in the interest in saving money than in saving people’s lives. In a lot of articles on the internets, it’s stated that cervical cancer doesn’t progress very quickly, so waiting three years between screenings should do no harm. There are some women who’d disagree-those who went from moderate or severe dysplasia to a cervical cancer diagnosis within a one or two year span. Waiting three years between screenings could literally mean the difference between life and death for me. Also, conventional pap smears alone don’t tell you if you have the HPV virus. They just detect abnormalities in your cervix. And the test gives false readings around 30% of the time. The HPV test is crucial to see exactly what the abnormality is. It’s also more accurate than the conventional pap test. It also gives false readings only around 5% of the time. I’d hate to think how I would fare if the more accurate HPV test is never given to me. I’d also hate to think about the possible increases in cervical cancer rates or deaths that might result if these recommendations become standard practice. Each human life is precious and each deserves to live a life free from cancer – ESPECIALLY WHEN IT IS PREVENTABLE! That is the point these people in some ivory tower making these dangerous recommendations miss. Unlike some other forms of cancer, cervical cancer is preventable and early detection plays the greatest role in ensuring less and less women each year contract it. While the hope is the vaccine will be another form of prevention, it still is in it’s early years and quite controversial. Early detection on the other hand is provable and something we now know prevents the development of cervical cancer if proper care is given.

You can see more info on these recommendations here and comment on them. The more people that voice their objection, the more likely these ivory tower so-called experts will back off. My life may well depend on them backing off. Look what happened when Bank of America proposed a $5 fee just for using your debit card. People were so outraged that they backed off. Let’s tell them that women’s lives are valuable and that we deserve the best care possible.